Monday, August 8, 2011

Who is Guilty of Watching RHONY or The Bachelor...

{Raises hand}

I have to admit I have watched every series and season of the Real Housewives empire, so I am guilty of feeding into the drama and crazy.

As I was watching the Real Housewives of New York reunion, it got me thinking, we as women should support and lift each other up and all they were doing ripping each other to pieces and degrading the other.  I know a lot of blog topics hit on the "We are women and should stick together" idea.  But I was thinking to myself, how are we supposed to stick together when what we are watching is cleary the opposite.

Think about it, almost every show involving women is in someway ripping us down somewhere.  You have "The Bachelor" where the women fight tooth and nail for a man....just a guy and we all watch with our mouths dropped the second drama happens.  Those women fight and bicker and backstab with the best of them.  "The Real Housewives of (insert city here), a show meant to give us "commoners" a backstage glimpse of a glamorous housewives lavish lifestyle.  This show has made me glad I don't have the lavish lifestyle that they do sometimes, I have less drama, and don't have to resort to backstabbing and gossiping on national television.  Each new season has gotten progressively worse and they seem to add troublemakers or try and stir the pot.  These women have children, those children will learn how to use google or know how to already and how embarrassing to be one of those women, to have your child see how you acted or put
another person down. 


Even in Blog land, women can't just bit their tongue if they don't like something that someone else put their time and effort into to write..  I get it, it's easy to hide behind your computer and spew off anything that comes to your mind but I mean what ever happened to "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all", I learned this at the ripe old age of like 5.  If women who are 40+ on a television show can't follow this obviously makes it easy for a 20+ something to say something mean because "Hey well she did it too".  Blair from "The Heir to Blair" wrote an amazing post on this.  You should read it.

These women on these shows have the platform and audience to put a better message out there but they choose not to use it for good rather for ripping the other down.  The millions of us (and I am totally guilty here too) feed into it and watch it, waiting for the next argument or tweeter war between the housewives, Bachelor gals or Jersey shore ladies.  Mrs. Monologues also wrote a great post on celebrity gossip and just saying no to it.  I'll admit it would be hard to just say no to all of it, but I am pledging that I will NOT purchase another gossipy magazine, as much as I may want to see what "Teen Mom" stars are doing I've realized that there are just more important things in the world these days.

This is such a mind ramble post, thanks for reading if you made it this far.  Lets just try and remember to try our best at saying something nice to someone, we all are women, most of us have children or will have children and I just have a hard time with the fact that if we as women (collectively) can't get along what does that example show our children.


Erika said...

I am totally guilty of loving RH...New Jersey, Beverly Hills, and Atlanta are my favorites. Ugh. I don't know WHY I love them so much!! They are so NOT like me...I can't stand girl drama in real life! Maybe it's just cause I get my fill on TV. Oh well. Thanks for reminding me I need to watch last night's DVRd episode. :)

Danielle said...

I am SO stoked for Bachelor pad tonight!!!!

Kristina said...

I've never been much for the reality tv shows, such as The Bachelor or Real Housewives, however, I just started to watch Jerseylicious and I'm HOOKED! I love listening to them talk and the way they do their hair, nails, makeup, etc. It's a total guilty pleasure. Unfortunately, the show focuses mainly on two hairstylists who fight all the time. I would like to think if all the stylists were completely nice to each other I would still watch it, but all the drama makes for "good" television.

Allie @ Table for 3, Actually Make that 4 said...

Dude I am OBSESSED with the RH of pretty much every city, minus Atlanta...Nene annoyes the crud out of me! I am so pumped for BH to be coming back in Sept! These ladies are kind of the examples of "how not to act like an adult" though! I love their drama so of course I keep watching!!

Raven said...

so tell me, have you kept up you end of the deal on not purchasing a gossip mag or watching Teen Mom? I wish I could make that promise, but sadly, I NEEEED those things in my life.